“We aim to please.” --- Christian Grey

I am actually not sure where will I start. There are so many letters or words that comes through my mind right now. I heard of this book since last year, 2013 but only this last week I began reading the trilogy. I consider myself fortunate since a friend of mine sent me an e-book copies of the three books of E.L.James. 

                I fell in love with the characters --- their simplicity, intimacy, honesty and the darker part of love and lust. The story is not your ordinary romance book. Warning. This entails a psychological implication as well for someone who undergone a traumatic experience since childhood. Running through the pages of Fifty Shades makes me realize what our Nurse Professors used to explain before. Those who are from an abusive environment they tend to feel they are unwanted subconsciously. Later on, they will exhibit those wants and needs in an unimaginable way just to feed their emotional hunger.

                Way back in college, in our psychiatric nursing reports, I always used the theory of Carl Jung. His theory spoke mainly about “cure to any illness depends on the inner self.” Since Christian knows he has a problem, he tends to comply with his therapist, Dr. Flynn. In their consultations, Dr. Flynn emphasized that in dealing with Grey’s personality there should be a benefit of the doubt. Grey is already emotional compromised due to his past and so there should be someone stepping up ahead of him in order for him to bounce back.

                I cannot judge plainly their characters that would be a bypass to the author. But the way I see it, it is not just about someone or people who are daring enough to be in Dominant-Submissive-Sadist-Masochist relationship but an unconditional love freely given by both parties. They are two matured consenting adults who are willing to please their partners. Although I am never been in a relationship due to I am a member of no boyfriend since birth. I feel Ana’s genuine love for Christian and the risk she’s willing to take just to be with him.

                Her character does not speak about a needy girl and desperate to have someone in her knees. Ms. Steele is more than that. She did not ask for someone to come her way, it just did. Cupid comes along and hit her with his tiny arrows. The same thing with Mr. Grey. He did not pray for it nor look for a new submissive. By means of destiny it occurred. The moment she comes in his office. It enlightens him in a way he cannot fathom. In that case, he thinks he needs a new one but he is wrong. What they felt within that circumstances is what I believe to be the heaven’s miracle. Bringing someone into your life without you knowing it beforehand, all you have to do is to go along, stretch your arms and enjoy the journey of life.

                There are some Catholic preachers whom I know off and they speak about love tank. Wherein in choosing your partner the two of you should have a full love tank. Well in this case, there are exception to the rule. Though I know this is a fictional story but somehow this happens in real life. There are some differences though, in this kind of setback if the ill-person allows himself to be engulfed of the demons inside him then there is a problem. On the other hand, if the ill-person finds a cure and enable to control his demon and allow his angel side to be seen. Then there is a strong chance that the person could be cured. Just like Christian, though he is a control freak, he has his angel-demon to deal with.

                While reading the trilogy, it makes me realize that having someone beside you each morning through good hair day and bad hair day, is a good thing. Getting married, I mean. 50 Shades Freed makes me explore my inner self. In order for a marriage to succeed, you have to earn the determination to safeguard the sacredness of the vow from the lurking predators. You and your spouse need to tango so that the relationship would bounce whenever the two of you caught in an unexpected events.

                Though the novels met a negative critics by other readers, I view it in a different manner. I know it is an erotic story. But in a relationship, you have to do some crazy stuffs just to please their partner right? The toys which Christian uses to his submissive girls and to Ana, are all form of foreplay. Foreplay is needed in order to arouse their partner or themselves. Is just that the gravity of how it is describe in the books are more intense. But for the benefit of the doubt, it takes tons of courage to write this book and bring it to life in the big screens.     

                The three books, entails other values as well:

1.  In every relationships, there should be trust and never be angry at the same time.

2. We all have our own love language.

3. You are a person use your own mind.

4. Accept the person for what they are and not for what they have.

5. Even bad people pray.

6. Love will come when you least expect it.

7. We all opt to do crazy things when we are in love.

8. Love knows no boundaries nor race.

9. Family is not measured in blood but in fondness, bond and care.         

10. The heart is priceless which money cannot buy.

11. Your past does not define your future.

12. Great things come in small things.

13. Do not judge a book by its cover.

14. Marriage is only for the husband-wife and no third party is allowed.

15. Try to control everything, you might end up with no one.

16. During honeymoon, from head to toe, it will be seen by your spouse.

17. Be with someone who will be proud and say “it is my woman or man, is she or he look gorgeous?”

18. True friends will be seen during your trial days.

19. Communication is vital in every given relationships.

20. Love the imperfect, perfectly.

21. Parenthood changes everything.

                Love it or hate it, read it or not, it is all up to readers to turn pages of each books. Human beings have the capacity to feel and express love. We all have our wants and needs. Every humans, we all have angels-demons within us. Writers have a way to give heart and soul to the characters of their artworks.   

                 

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